Wednesday, March 9, 2011

182 Days

Last night, as I do on most nights once dinner is done, dishes are washed, and lunch is packed, I sat down at the computer to unwind.  I usually catch up on some blogs, read the news, browse Facebook and then put away the computer.  But last night, I sat down for a good 2-hour chunk of time and simply could not rip myself away from one particular website.

I've always known cancer as part of my life.  My godmother died of cancer, my favorite cousin died of cancer, my little best friend Liat died of cancer, my sweet mother-in-law had cancer before I knew her.  Cancer, cancer, cancer.  It's evil and it sucks and it changes you and everyone around you.  It takes you on a tumultuous, unkown path and it rages like a war inside your body.  And, I would imagine, if you were given 182 days to live out your "bucket list" before you lost your battle against it, you'd change the way you were living your life too.

Before she had her 182-days-left-to-live timeline set for her, Crystal Marston wrote the letter below.  I strongly encourage you to get sucked in by her website as I did.  She is living the life that every single one of us should be living, cancer or not.  She's making time for things like holding newborn babies and learning to make espresso art, surprising an old friend and having a proper tea party.  You'll come out a different person after knowing her (albeit virtually), maybe just for one day or maybe forever...


http://www.182days.com/

When people talk about cancer, they talk about winning.  They talk about beating it.  I imagine myself in a runners lunge, at the starting line with my left foot pressed hard against the block and my fingertips in red dirt.  I imagine my heart racing as I glance to my right to size up my opponent, and gulping as I wait for the doctor to pull the trigger on the pistol to begin the race against time.  The problem is, I can’t see my opponent.  I can’t size up what I am against, or train or practice for better odds.  I don’t know if this is a win or lose situation.
 I turn to medicine.  I turn to doctors who I trustingly allow to poison me in order to make me well again.  I check my hair, my eyelashes, my fingernails.  Every day.  I feel my organs inside of me wishing they could jump ship.  I felt better before I knew I had cancer, when my body was riddled with it.  And now I’m trading problem for problem, spade for spade.
I try to live my life to the fullest, even before cancer (I have people who will vouch for this).  I’ve been called an inspiration.  I’ve been called irresponsible.  Sometimes my fullest is too full for other who feel I’m reckless with my health.  The judgment of those who feel I should be more respectful of the disease that could be killing me slowly.  I have no respect for my cancer, and I refuse to.
These medications have made me lose my mind.  I try to view my memory loss as endearing, although I know it becomes irritating.  I get frustrated with myself on a minute by minute basis, wondering if I’m even the same person anymore.  But I can’t remember.
I will not be humbled by this experience, I do not feel small.  I feel huge and loud and lucky to have the life I’ve had.  And you, the people in it.  In my quiet moments I silently ask questions to no one in particular, and know there are no answers.
I will go to my grave as if I were stepping on a soapbox.  It will not be a loss, because there was never any winning.  In life it’s only a “thanks for playing.”


10 comments:

Anonymous said...

she faked the whole thing

Anonymous said...

Not joking about her faking the whole thing. She never had cancer and stole thousands of dollars from people. I have proof. I hope she rots in jail forever.

Anonymous said...

Why is there no current information whatsoever on the internet about Crystal? It points to either a) she passed or b) the Anonymous poster saying she faked the whole thing is correct. Anonymous, what do you know and what proof do you have? Where is Crystal today? How long of a jail sentence can one receive for these types of charges? Someone who fakes cancer must be exposed...... I am surprised the internet isn't littered with "Crystal Marston fakes cancer and embezzled thousands" type news articles, current or not.

-Lost

Anonymous said...

I was following her story out of pure interest back then. Decided to look her up again out of boredom/curiosity...can't find anything about her whatsoever. Except this:

https://www.instagram.com/p/34EDCLn-2e/

Anonymous said...

I searched out of curiosity as well. I wonder why she dropped off the map. Maybe someone will comment here with more information. I remember reading her blog, she even shaved her head. Man that would be really messed up if it was all a lie.

Anonymous said...

its not a joke. She went underground because she does not want to be found. Would you?

i'mwaitingfortheSingularity said...
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Anonymous said...

I hear she's in California. She probably changed her name to escape the heat. Isn't it weird that there is practically nothing about her when you Google her name and cancer?

steffany said...

My non profit was a victim of hers,

Anonymous said...

What happened?